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First of all, how can you recognize that it might be time to show yourself compassion.
A few signs might be:
in short: you feel shitty about where you are right now. And to ease the pressure and fill your life with joy again – showing yourself compassion is one of the ways to do that.
The Cambridge Dictionary defines compassion as “a strong feeling of sympathy […] for other people’s suffering or bad luck and a desire to help”.
When showing compassion to yourself that means having a strong feeling of sympathy towards yourself and your own suffering. It means seeing yourself in that “bad” situation and having a desire to help yourself in some way, shape or form.
I think it goes without saying that there are an infinite amount of ways to show up and give yourself the feeling of sympathy. So if you know of one that is not in this post, send a message (office@yllispace.com)! I’d love to hear from you!
Some of my favourites are:
What you’re doing right now is you’re finding your own path. You’re trying to find your place in this world. And my god, that can be so difficult at times, because it sometimes feels like you’re not getting anywhere.
In moments like this it’s important you remind yourself that finding your place in this world is a path. It’s a path you’re on and not a destination you’re trying to reach.
You’ll probably never “get there” because there is always room to improve & level up. Making yourself aware of that will take the pressure off of you.
You being on your journey to find your place is not something you do uniquely. Everyone (or most people are) is on a quest to find what feels good and what brings them joy. This can bring out a competitive side in some that puts an additional pressure on the affected person.
Sometimes you might be “faster” and other times you might be “slower” than your peers or your social environment. This is no reason to worry or to feel like you’re not enough. The reason why, is that the perception of your pace and everyone elses pace is your peception alone.
Who says that you’re too slow? Who says that you’re going too fast? What happens is, you compare your progress with someone else’s. The problematic thing about this is, that you never truly know someone else’s progress, because you’re not them. And you most definitely don’t know it from whatching them.
So relax. Remind yourself that there is no timeline. You are moving at the pace that is exactly right for you. You can trust yourself and your life that it will guide you to specific things in your specific pace and time. Even if that sounds cheesy. 😉
Finding your path also means that at some point your family will notice what your plans, dreams and aspirations are. And even in the most supportive family it is possible to experience push-back. By that I mean sentences like: “Why would you want to do that?” or “That’s a stupid idea!”.
And that might make you feel discouraged and feel like they put you back to your starting place. Because if your family thinks it’s stupid, then maybe they are right???
Well, in a situation like this I invite you to develop empathy. Develop an inner standing of “Hey family, I hear you, I hear your views and I see your concerns. They are allowed their space. My views are allowed their space as well and ultimately it’s up to me to make a decision.”
This inner attitude will help you to stay connected to your path and keep the negativity out. Through that you won’t feel discouraged.
Move through life from a place of empathy and love – allowing other views to exist and at the same time creating your own space.
Do you have a question on how to embody these mentioned points? Or would you like to add someting? Write to office@yllispace.com
Would you like a little support in figuring out what it is that you want? Check out Conscious Commitment!
You really are doing a great job! Lots of love to you,
Patricia